Hello, I'm Becky! 

From Buildings to Bodies: How I got here

Despite having a successful decade as an architect, I always felt like I had more to offer—something deeper, more human, more in-person. I loved designing fancy custom homes, but what I craved was making a difference towards a more human-centered world.

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After an amazingly adventurous chapter traveling the world for nearly 4 years—and a not-so-fun chapter facing the trauma of a near-death experience—I was cracked open in ways I couldn’t ignore. What became crystal clear was this: intimacy is essential. But too often, our culture confuses intimacy with sex. In reality, that’s just one small piece—and not the most meaningful one.

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For my own healing, nervous system, and soul, what I’ve needed is safe, platonic intimacy with no pressure: the kind that softens our armor, eases loneliness, and whispers, “You’re safe here, just as you are.” Certainly, in hard times it's ideal if we have friends and family to reach out too for comfort, but sometimes, it's too difficult. As an avid traveler, there have been countless times I've felt entirely seen and fulfilled in a brief encounter. That inspired me. 

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In 2018, I launched a professional cuddling business that quickly became a quiet success. What I didn’t realize at the time was that I was getting a front-row, real-world education in the anecdotal power of oxytocin. Session after session, I watched simple, safe, intentional touch regulate stress, lower emotional walls, and help people feel more alive and connected. But even more than that, it brought something deeply human back into the room. While professionalism and clear boundaries are essential, I learned they don’t have to be rigid—or robotic. These sessions were full of real connection, real conversation, and the kind of mutual presence that makes both people feel good, inside and out.

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It felt like magic—but I knew it was science. After nearly 2 years I closed up shop and enrolled in grad school to study it.

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Unfortunately, I was accepted into my program in April of 2020... thus my Master’s in psychological research took place entirely during COVID—no touch research allowed. Doh!! Instead, I focused my thesis on emotional loneliness and how it relates to our ability to recognize and express our needs. What I discovered felt like a missing link:  We can’t feel emotionally connected if we can’t feel—or share—what we need.

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And I believe touch is one of those needs.

Not for everyone in the same way, but still, essential (Click here to read about my dreams for a non-profit Oxytocin Research, Education & Touch Lab).

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After graduating, I spent two years working at The Gottman Institute, immersed in the science of love, relationships, and emotional repair. It was meaningful work—and also clarifying. Eventually, my heart nudged me toward something more hands-on—literally.

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I didn’t want to just study connection. I wanted to offer it.

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I’ve taken everything I’ve learned—about touch, oxytocin, trauma, nervous system regulation, and the wildly beautiful complexity of being human—and woven it into something new:

Oxytocin Bathing.

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This offering is my attempt to bring more of what I believe truly heals us: intimacy, connection (to self and others), safe touch, kindness, and loving care. Delivered with sparkle!

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Feel free to explore this page—I’ve gathered lots of resources and shared some of my big dreams. And of course, reach out with questions, ideas, comments, or anything else you feel moved to share. 😊

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Much love,