Matriarchy Now
Whether you saw me at the No Kings Protest today or were just here exploring my oxytocin bathing services, I have an announcement to make:
I’m sorry to say I'm not offering individual sessions at this time, but excited instead about putting my entire focus on Matriarchy Building. To make sure we're on the same page about what that means, here's an article that explains matriarchy wonderfully.
I feel a strong calling to be part of the shift from the current culture, designed to hurt humans, make us exhausted, overwhelmed, angry, alone, sick, poor, traumatized, and constantly struggling, to a new world. A full shift to a society redesigned with collaboration, care, and human flourishing as the foundation. Every policy, program, or infrastructure is viewed through the lens of love first, not profit. Everyone’s safety, dignity, true self expression, and belonging, are paramount.
It is not a fairy tale, it’s the world that my soul remembers and my heart feels, beckoning me and many of us into greater and immediate action. This little project of mine, Oxytocin Bathing, is a slice of that new world. Something I created from that calling, as is almost everything I've been doing for a decade, I just didn't have the words or any clear understanding of what we are moving towards, or what we were up against. The veil has been lifting in the outside world, while the path forward is lighting us up from the inside.
If you are also hungry for CHANGE and are deeply honest, transparent, heart forward, AND action oriented, LET’S CONNECT!! I'm hoping to team up with movements already happening, or work with others who have passion, connections, and/or resources to get things moving. There's no time to waste!! I have 9 acres of land an hour East of Portland that can become a hub or haven if needed.
Some ideas I have:
-A TV show called www.thebonoboeffect.com: think Shark Tank but instead of business investing for profit, we have philanthropists who adopt and help create matriarchal villages and systems with impact toward greater good through funding AND a helping network.
-Forever and always, my long term dream of an Oxytocin, Intimacy, and Human Relation Research and Training Center (which is also a free touch center and has a zillion satellite hubs!). Long before I realized the entire social structure needed to change, I've understood how humans are starving for safe touch and connection. Within the matriarchy, the idea behind oxytocin bathing is a birthright, at EVERY age of life, for everyone. It may be hard to see it now, because within patriarchy, it's a naive child's dream. But within matriarchy, it's obvious. I have the experience and education and 100's of ideas that give me confidence. THIS IS THE HILL I WILL DIE ON: human beings NEED safe and welcome touch and intimacy. At different levels of course, just as we have different nutrition needs, and I think a greater understanding of oxytocin at a biological level can help us understand that. The current culture has made chronic loneliness an individual embarrasment (instead of a societal failure), and as such we have put insatiable demands on sexual and romantic partners (or victims). Kind, safe, consentual touch and intimacy can be sexual, to sensual, and all the way to absolutely platonic, and we have to bring that full range back. It's possible, I can see it.
—Create a network of fully transparent, researched, and documented live-in matriarchy villages, of varying sizes and setting (15 vs 40 vs 100, large property commune style vs a renovated hotel or old school vs an adapted subdivision, etc. I don't know, we'll ask the experts). We’d see a variety of prototypes, some already in existence, some adapted from a previous hierarchy, some started from scratch. We’d begin with consulting and recruiting AND PAYING the experts well. These would exist as a way to gather research and see what really works, and show how we can adapt and collaborate and repair as needed. All fully transparent, all adapted in real time. A way to show the world what it could be like.
—a Good Mothers/Good Fathers non profit. Similar to Big Brother/Big Sister, but for adults who are lacking a parental figure. Whether you’re 19 or 39 or 59, filling whatever hole you may feel for a caring and wise elder. Simultaneously creating a pipeline of training and education for those ready to take on a father or mother figure role for someone over the age of 18 who feels alone. Having biological children or having raised children is unnecessary, only the desire to care and support, to give what you have to offer. I speak from experience, there is little worse that thinking your parent doesn’t like you or want you, and that does not end at this arbitrary age of 18. (This feels like it could be a branch or partner program of the research center dreamed up above).
—A matchmaking company that connects individuals but also VILLAGES of people based on their core human needs and probability for nervous system healing. We've been using only attraction and surface compatibility for too long, and that's long past not working. There are deeper methods that can guide us towards what kind of environment we’d be most able to grow and heal and self-actualize in. Friendship wise, romantically, community wise, and even perhaps mother/fathers for the organization listed above. What do we actually need from each other to thrive? The old marriage model and separate nuclear family only seems to be working for a tiny fraction of people. We are too isolated and lonely, and we are so armored up, our systems have forgotten how to trust. If it can be done ethically, safely, and transparently, we can utilize the technology that they've used to divide us, instead for reconnecting us in-person with a variety of supportive environments.
—A cohort of research enthusiasts who can tackle the restrictive and exclusive nature of academia: All research studies available to the public. Eliminate the payment walls and publish even studies with non-significance. That is DATA too. AND, a system to cross-validate or duplicate old studies that are still touted as truth to be sure that's accurate so we are spreading outdated info.
—a Cohort of passionate folks who can help change the building codes at large and small scales. The current building codes and SFR (single family residence) zoning regulations are designed to isolate the nuclear family, making parents more lonely, tired, and overwhelmed. A starting point is to look at how to redesign codes to allow for communities and villages, at a minimum for multi-generational family needs, so families have greater support.
—- mini Bonobo Effect projects all over the country, matching local people who have been great at making money, with those who are fantastic at caring. It is time to spread the wealth and value the soft skills. Everybody loves the kindhearted, lets make life easier for them and see what happens!!!!
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These are just a FEW of my ideas, which others do you have? How can we work together to start making such things happen!?!?!? You have a podcast? Let's talk!
p.s. For fun, want to see a feel good true-story movie about humans coming together and making a miracle happen?! Watch “Ordinary Angels” on Netflix, sooooo good! We love you Sharons of the world! Thank you for taking care of shit, we need you now!!! xoxoxox
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