Tears Are Welcome Here (Even the Sobbing Kind)

I cry easily.

I always have.

Sad movies, beautiful moments, relief, grief, overwhelm, connection, and sometimes just being seen. Tears come quickly for me. They love to hang around even when I’m ready for them to go, and they give no shits at all about whether it’s an “appropriate” place for them to show up. Society is not always kind about tears, so I’ve avoided plenty of situations simply because I knew they’d come and I didn’t want to deal with the response.

My tears aren’t a flaw. Yours aren’t either.

Crying is one of the body’s most natural ways to regulate. Tears are how stress discharges. How grief softens. How relief lands. How something that’s been held for too long finally gets permission to move.

For some of us, tears are simply the fastest pathway back to equilibrium.

In a culture that teaches us to stay composed, productive, and “fine,” crying can feel embarrassing or excessive. We apologize for it. Try to stop it mid-stream. Swallow it down entirely.

At Oxytocin Bathing, you don’t have to do that.

Crying here is not something to manage or minimize. It’s not something you need to warn me about or explain away.

Quiet tears.Messy tears.The kind that come with shaking breaths and a cracked voice.The kind that surprise you.

All of it is welcome.

And if tears never come, that’s okay too.

There is no right way to arrive.

If you cry, I won’t rush you. I won’t analyze you. I won’t pull away.

I’ll stay.

I’ll hold you if that’s what you want. I’ll hand you tissues. I’ll gently touch your arms or your hair if that feels supportive. I’ll help your body understand, with or without words, that you are safe, you are not too much, and this is okay.

Because it is.

Too many of us have learned that our emotions are inconvenient, overwhelming, or inappropriate. Especially when those emotions show up as tears.

But tears are not weakness. They’re not immaturity. They’re not failure.

They are connection trying to happen.

Oxytocin Bathing is built around slowing down, being attuned, and offering safe, caring touch. In that kind of environment, emotions often surface naturally.

Tears don’t mean something is wrong. They mean the body no longer has to brace.

I’m good at sitting with intensity, because I’m good at making space for what’s real.

My own sensitivity is what makes these sessions possible. You don’t need to be “regulated” before you arrive. You don’t need to hold it together. You don’t need to perform calm.

You can come exactly as you are.

If you’ve ever felt ashamed for crying…If you’ve been told you’re “too sensitive”…If your body wants to release but doesn’t know where it’s allowed…

This is a place and space for you.

Come cry if you need to. Come be held if you want to. Come let your nervous system rest in the presence of someone who isn’t scared of your feelings.

Tears are welcome here. Always. 💗